Everyone gets nervous when sending the first message, and a ‘hi’ is just boring. So here’s how to start a conversation on a dating app to help out.
We’re starting a new set with ‘Tips From a Dating App’ – who else should you take dating advices from? When a dating app itself gives you tips and tricks on how to nail a date or get laid, you take it!
In this article, we’re talking about how to start a conversation on a dating app. You’ve matched – congrats! But then comes the awkwardness of who texts first. Should you do it? Or should you wait for them to? If you’re on Bumble, then women text first, but still – WHAT DO YOU TEXT???
We all know those ‘hi’ ‘how are you’ ‘how was your day’ ‘what’s up’ ‘hey’ are boring as hell. From a simple ‘hi’ usually goes to ‘what did you do today’ and the conversation goes from there to just.. randomly talking about your day. Every day.
Not to mention that there is always that stigma that the guys have to start first. I don’t know where that came from, but it’s probably the same with how guys are expected to make the first move, propose first, etc. Well I say it’s time for a change and let anyone start the message.
I realize that doesn’t help our topic, so here’s some actual content;
How To Start A Conversation On A Dating App
1. Ask about something specific in their picture
Here’s the thing, if they have no profile bio or just one picture, maybe this one isn’t for you. But if they do have more than one picture, you could definitely start a conversation! Point it out (if it’s a picture), and say that it’s funny/interesting/weird – whatever you want. Or start asking questions about it.
- “Oh what kind of fish is that?”
- “Wow, what a view! Where was it?”
- “That’s a really big zucchini in your pants… That is a zucchini, right?”
2. Would You Rather
This one is always fun, isn’t it? Think of some would you rather questions and shoot. They can be as dirty or as innocent you want, it doesn’t really matter. You should also answer your own question, then explain, and ask him why he chose his answer. Boom. Conversation.
- “Would you rather make out in a concert or in a club?”
- “Would you rather kiss a frog or lick a foot?”
- “Would you rather have sex in a car or in the cinemas?”
3. Ask something. Anything.
There are no rules here, you can literally ask anything you want! If you’re still confused, here’s some options;
- What do you do on the weekends?
- Who are three of the most important people in your life?
- What is your most useless skill?
- Favorite sport?
- Do you find it easy to open up to people?
- What are you passionate about in life?
Again, ask anything you like. There’s a stigma that asking too many questions can seem nosey or desperate, and now there’s also the fear of being considered weird if you ask too many questions, but it’s just being friendly and trying to come up with a conversation. If they think you’re weird for doing that, maybe go find someone else.
4. Compliment them
They only have one picture? No problem. You say “wow, you look really good in that one picture”. Or “Your name really rings a bell. Have we met somewhere?” Make something interesting, compliment them on their shoes they’re wearing, or the view in the picture, anything.
5. Ask what they’re looking for.
I know some people put it on their profile to make it clear, yet again, some people put nothing on their profile. If you’re on a dating app to look for something specific, maybe asking what they’re looking for is a good idea to start the conversation. That way you’d know whether to continue it at all!
If you’re too awkward for this, don’t need to worry. There’s an app that does it for you. DOWN App has a swiping feature that allows you to differentiate your intentions. Looking for a one night stand? We got you. Looking for a serious relationship? We got you too.
6. Use pickup lines
I know pickup lines are corny, cheesy, tacky, old-fashioned, you name it. But when they work, they work. Sometimes you have to hit them with something expected yet totally unexpected. We have a list of flirty pick up lines that are corny but they’re also really funny! The thing is, you’ll never get a pickup line to sound impressive without it being cheesy – that’s just how it is. So, own it and make it work!
Those are 6 tips on how to start a conversation on a dating app. If you have any more you just thought off, by al means go for it! These tips come from DOWN Dating App ; an honest dating app that is sex positive and want their users to date honestly.
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