Let’s be honest.
One of the most awkward moments in online dating isn’t sending the first message.
It’s realizing you’ve been talking to someone who’s looking for something completely different.
Maybe you’re hoping to build a real relationship.
They’re looking for something casual.
Or maybe you’re just seeing what’s out there, while they’re already planning the future.
Neither of you is wrong.
You just weren’t looking for the same thing.
That’s why DOWN now asks every new user one simple question before they even start matching.
What Are You Down For?
When creating your account, you’ll be asked:
“What are you down for?”
Choose all the options that genuinely reflect what you’re open to:
- Casual
- Exploring my sexuality
- Online Fun
- Serious
- Down for whatever
There’s no right or wrong answer.
Some people know exactly what they’re looking for. Others are still figuring it out. Some are open to different kinds of connections depending on who they meet.
The important part is being honest.
Because the more people know about your intentions, the easier it becomes to find someone who’s looking for something similar.
Skip the Awkward Conversation
We’ve all been there.
You match with someone.
The conversation is effortless.
You’re making each other laugh, swapping playlists, planning where to grab drinks…
Then someone asks:
“So… what are you actually looking for?”
Sometimes it’s exactly what you hoped they’d say.
Sometimes it’s the moment you both realize you’ve been heading in completely different directions.
Sharing your intentions from the beginning helps avoid those moments.
Instead of spending days wondering if you’re on the same page, you can start every conversation knowing there’s already a better chance you’re looking for the same kind of connection.
Better Matches Start With Shared Expectations
Not everyone downloads a dating app for the same reason.
Some people are looking for a long-term relationship.
Some are interested in something casual.
Some are exploring their sexuality.
Some simply want to meet new people and see where things go.
And that’s exactly how it should be.
Dating becomes a lot more enjoyable when people can be upfront about what they want without feeling judged.
Intentions aren’t there to put people into boxes.
They’re there to help you spend less time guessing and more time connecting with people who actually fit what you’re looking for.
More Honesty. Less Guesswork.
The best conversations don’t start with confusion.
They start with clarity.
When expectations are already aligned, there’s less overthinking, fewer awkward surprises, and a much better chance of building a connection that actually goes somewhere.
Whether that’s one great date, something casual, or the beginning of a serious relationship, it all starts with being honest about what you’re looking for.
Find People Who Want What You Want
At DOWN, we believe the best matches happen when people are open about both who they are and what they’re looking for.
The new Intentions feature makes that easier from the very beginning.
So before your first swipe, tell people what you’re down for.
You might be surprised how much easier dating becomes when everyone starts on the same page.
Because finding the right person starts with finding someone who’s looking for the same thing.