He’s supposed to be just as hurting – so why did he move on so fast? And why am I still hung up on him? Let’s talk about this.
Are you scrolling through Instagram and suddenly you see his story, getting dinner with another girl? And now you feel awful for it – you feel sad all over again. All that self-love quotes just don’t seem to be doing it for you tonight. Just how and why did he move on so fast? Were you that horrible of a partner?
The answer is no, you’re not. And please don’t badger yourself.
Why did he move on so fast?
To tell you the truth, there are so many reasons for that, and it’s impossible to guess which one. But, one of the most common reasons is that they can’t stand being alone. So he went out – maybe on a date, maybe just to get dinner with friends, but that’s how he copes.
It’s a fight or flight reaction. You either fight the experience, you go through it and fight it head on, your you flight – meaning you choose not to address the situation and escape. Which, usually, isn’t ideal.
Why did he move on so fast – does this mean I can, too?
It’s not that simple, sadly. Everyone moves at their own pace, right? You need to set your own pace, and move on when you’re ready to move on. It’s not some kind of race, there’s no prize when you move on fast – hell, it might come with repercussions instead.
If you do think you’re ready to move on with your life, then by all means. It’s not rocket science either, there’s no correct way to do things, it’s just based on how you feel.
If you feel like you’re still broken inside, give yourself some time and let those wounds heal. It takes patience, self-love, and whole lot of ice cream to get through that. But you’re strong, so don’t worry too much about it.