He said we needed to talk… wait… is he breaking up with me?
If you’re asking yourself ‘is he breaking up with me’ because your boyfriend is acting weird, there might be something else going on other than his “I’m just tired” excuse.
When your relationship gets dull, it can be tricky to know if your partner is down to break up. And it’s devastating to tell your friends ‘my boyfriend cheated’. Just understanding how to identify when things get stale can help you and your boyfriend work together to improve the quality of the relationship and ensure that you’re both happy moving forward, and not breaking up. So let’s look at some signs that indicate that your bae wants to call it quits.
Here’s some answers that might help you;
1. Is he avoiding me?
Some people find that telling their partner they want to breakup is too hard, so instead of being direct and honest, they choose the path of avoidance. You shouldn’t stay silent when you notice they’re becoming more quiet, not as present, or if they’d prefer their alone time. If it’s once or twice, then it’s probably okay, but if you do see a significant change then maybe you should ask them. Ask them if everything is okay, ask them if there’s anything they’d like to talk about.
2. He stopped making an effort.
Relationships require effort from both partners. Whether it’s setting up dates with your partner or trying to make up after an argument, making an effort to show each other you care about them is what shows you are serious about a relationship. It may be a sign that your partner is ready for a breakup if he no longer tries. Perhaps he is blowing off important anniversaries or other special occasions, and this hurts you. Maybe you’re the one making all the effort here, and is it all really worth it?
3. Bros before anything.
Couples should have their own space, but having a relations is not exactly what you want in a relationship. To find out where your partner stands, invite them out. Claiming that ‘Saturdays are for the boys’ when in reality he’s already spending most of his days with his friends is something you should look out for. If he doesn’t want to go out with you and prefer to spend time with his friends, maybe it’s time to revisit those breakup reasons.
4. Intimacy is scarce.
There are other ways to express love, but physical touch is definitely important to keep in mind. If you don’t get affection from him anymore that’s not good. Not all guys are very cuddly in a relationship, but take note of how this aspect of the relationship changes. You will be able to sense this intuitively. If it’s just not there anymore, don’t try to force this dynamic. It will only prolong the pain of heartbreak when it’s really time to breakup.
5. Is he breaking up with me? He downloaded hookup apps.
There are tons of top dating app out there (Tinder, Okcupid, DOWN, or Bumble). This might be a sign that he could cheat on you, but let’s not start pointing fingers. As women, men always say that we’re crazy, and that always tips us off especially when everyone knows we’re right. Instead, be calm and take this sign as you dodged a bullet. Maybe you spent a long time with him, but now you know he’s the type of person who avoids communicating, and would rather get under the covers of his dating app matches as a resolve.
Reading the breakup signs is difficult. Not everyone picks up on it, which is why most of the time breakups come as a real surprise. If you do see the signs, talk to your partner about how you feel, maybe you’re just picking up the wrong signs. On another note, maybe you’re also leaving some traces of wanting to breakup that you didn’t notice but your partner did. Either way, communication is KEY (we cannot stress this enough).