We all have our first times. Now it’s your turn, and let’s help you out with how to have sex for your first time so that it’s enjoyable for everyone.
I know you’re probably nervous and there’s a thousand things running through your mind right now. You obviously want your first time to be good (if not great) and you also want your partner to enjoy it. There’s the fear of not performing well enough on your first time, but that’s what it is, isn’t it? Your first time. So take your time, enjoy it, and you’ll get better with time.
But regardless, you’re still here to find out the tips and tricks or at least just how to have sex – good sex, for your first time. Here we go;
How to Have Sex For Your First Time;
It’s common to be nervous and feel anxious on your first time. There are lots of things you can do to help with those feelings.
1. Do it with the right person
It might be easier on your mind and body if you have sex for the time with someone who you trust and hold dear. It’d be easier for your body because though you may not realize it, but your body can be nervous unconsciously. For women, muscles can tighten. And for men, you might not be able to get it up.
2. Take your time.
It’s always important to take it slow. Don’t rush into the ‘main action’. Sex isn’t just the penetration, it’s about the intimacy, how you can feel the other’s body touching yours. Sure, sometimes you do want a one and done, but for your first time, take your time.
3. Safety first.
Safety is always first. Always wear use a condom, and check for STIs. Even though you’re wearing a condom, the chances of you contracting infections still exists. Practice safe sex because it’s important – if you don’t use protection, you might get an unwanted pregnancy or one of these;
- Hepatitis B and C
4. Understanding consent and boundaries.
Make sure that you’re having sex because you want to, not because your partner or anyone is forcing you to do it. Consent means making sure everyone involved is comfortable, safe, and want to participate on their own behalf. If someone said they’re not comfortable with something, then that’s the boundary they’re setting. The other person needs to respect those boundaries.
5. Know that there are different types of sex.
There’s all kinds of sex, like vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, etc., you don’t have to do all of them (or any of them) at once of course, but do the one that you and your partner is most comfortable with. The different types of sex isn’t a checklist, though it is to some, you don’t have to do all of them. It’s totally cool to be adventurous, but once you’re not okay with something, be sure to say it.
An orgasm is something that you experience at the peak of sexual pleasure. When you experience an orgasm or climax, or cum, usually it feels really really good. It includes muscle contractions in the sexual organs, lower pelvis muscles, and anus. Achieving an orgasm isn’t as easy for women – as society has clearly stated – women normally can cum when the clitoris is stimulated or when the penis can hit the G spot repeatedly – but this varies for everyone, so make sure you communicate with your partner.
Hopefully this helps you with how to have sex for your first time. The next time you wonder how to have sex, read our posts! We have some dating and hookup advice here just for you.