It’s sad to say it, but sex does get boring after a while, especially if it’s the same routine every single time. If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, you’re at the right place.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, and you’re trying to spice up some sex because things have gone… stale, then all you need to know is that you need to be a little adventurous. Both of you. The reason why sex can be boring is that if it started to become a routine, and then from that it became a chore.
You started from having sex all day because you can’t get enough of each other but now the sex is scheduled. Every Tuesday, from 10.30 PM to 11 PM.
The truth is, sex does get boring, but it was neither of your intentions for it to turn that way. So here’s some help so you can fix the issue.
How To Spice Up Sex With Your Partner
1. Try something new.
I know, I know. Newsflash; if you’re bored of something, you gotta try something new. I know it’s not new advice. It’s literally what everyone says when you’re bored of anything. But how do you actually do it? First off, you need to know there are different types of sex. Sex doesn’t only mean p in v sex, so you’ve got plenty of options!
If that’s too boring for you, then explore a little bit more. What do they like? What do you like? Explore the kinks together, and see if there maybe something for you to try!
2. What’s your fantasy?
You can’t tell me you don’t have a fantasy. Everyone at least has one fantasy. That includes all kinds of kinks (or no kinks!). For example, you’ve fantasized about having sex in the bathtub – it’s vanilla, but it’s still a fantasy.
A fantasy can range from something realistic to something that can only be played by imagination. As long as you and your partner have talked about these fantasies, and that both of you decide that you want to do it, then by all means please do!
3. Watch porn together
I know it sounds weird, but trust me when I tell you that it’s a game changer. You may not think you’d share what you watch on PH to your partner, but it’s a pretty good way to show your partner what you like. Your partner can pick it up, they’ll notice the little things that excite you and who knows, maybe they’ll just surprise you.
And vice versa, you can see what your partner likes. Beware though, maybe don’t jump into the extreme stuff immediately, you can always save that for later when you think your partner’s ready for it.
4. Go see a sex therapist
There’s no shame in seeing a sex therapist. It doesn’t mean that things are going bad, it just means that both of you are on a journey together to explore the world of sex! Sex doesn’t only have to be penetrative, and though you think you know everything there is to sex, a sex therapist sees things differently from you.
Maybe it’s not that you’re getting bored of the sex, but it’s just that you need a third party view. Everybody needs help with some things sometimes. There’s no shame in admitting that.
There you have it! How to spice up sex with your partner in 4 ways. If you find other ways to do this, then I’m happy for you. While you’re here, check out our other posts!