Whether they’re a stranger or friend, here’s all you need to do before you’re hooking up with someone.
When it comes to hooking up with someone, some of us can truly just say ‘fuck it’ and forget about everything. And you might be asking ‘what do you mean’ because you’re not sure what you need to keep in mind before hooking up with someone, but don’t worry. I’m here to help you with that.
5 Things NOT To Do When Hooking Up With Someone
1. Not showering before sex
It’s just normal hygiene, okay? Most people only know the shower after sex, but not before sex. There are a couple reasons as to why you should shower before sex, such as; you and your partner would smell a lot nicer during sex, and it will make you enjoy their company more. And, if oral or anal is involved, you can thoroughly clean everything before that and it can reduce the risk of getting infections.
2. Doing something without their consent
This is an obvious no-no. And I’m talking even to the littlest things. For example; neither of you have talked about anal before, yet your partner suddenly pushes a thumb in you. Not only are you not prepared mentally, but physically it would hurt. Always talk about everything, get consent, and respect their boundaries.
3. Lie about or hide your intentions
If the sex that’s about to happen is with someone you matched with online, then make sure you both clearly state what you’re looking for and what are your expectations. Do you just want a one night stand from the other person? Or do you want to go on dates afterwards? All of this is just for the sake of avoiding the awkwardness and misunderstandings after sex.
4. Not ever taking the lead
There’s one position that you should never do, and that’s the Starfish. Why do we call it that? Because they do nothing but lie on their backs. Sex isn’t only about one of you getting the pleasure, everyone needs to be the giver at some point. It may be daunting to be on top or take the lead for the first time, but it’s always better to ask them than to be a Starfish all the time.
5. Focusing only on penetration
It shouldn’t be a surprise when you read articles that say women don’t generally have an orgasm purely from penetration. It doesn’t hurt to touch a little bit more, you know. Or leave bites (not marks), licks, touches, it’s the little things that also count! Listen to the noises she makes, you can tell what she likes.
Remember these things before hooking up with someone!