There’s a myth that men don’t have feelings. But do guys catch feelings after hooking up? If you’re curious, read below and find out the secret.
Do guys catch feelings after hooking up?
You wonder after that time spent between you two, does he feel the spark you’re feeling now? Or does he feel anything at all? What are the chances that he might be thinking the same thing you are now?
Don’t worry, we’re here to answer your questions. We’ve been there, we understand how you feel, and we’re here to talk about it.
So, do guys catch feelings after hooking up?
Short answer, yes.
Believe it or not, men aren’t robots. They have feelings, and though they might act tough and brush it off, they do feel things. Though the difference between men and women is that men don’t tend to recognize those feelings as easily. It takes them time, they need to process it, and usually by the time they do realize they have feelings, it’s all a bit too late.
Some men who have emotional maturity and who are more aware of their emotions may recognize them sooner, but this is not the case with both men and women, actually. Sex brings emotions, you’re vulnerable with each other and it’s an emotion with motion, as Mae West said.
So why is it so difficult for men to show their feelings?
Men grew up thinking that having emotions = weakness
I think this is something everyone is aware of. Men grew up thinking that they have to be ‘detached’, more rational, less emotional, and they’re not allowed to have emotional needs. It’s nice to see that stigma is slowly being thrown away, and that men can have emotions without being called fragile.
But this isn’t something permanent. Eventually, men crave those emotional needs, and if you show him the good of what trusting other people with their emotions can bring, maybe their walls might just crumble. I’m not saying you should be that girl who thinks she can change a man, I’m saying you shouldn’t give up so easily just because there’s signs of trauma.
It’s all about trust.
It’s clear that people need to trust before loving, and that applies to everyone. Like we mentioned before, men are conditioned to think that they shouldn’t get attached so fast, and they need to keep people at a safe distance.
Men aren’t used to showing their vulnerable side to others, so show him that you can be trusted, and he might just do that.
So, do guys catch feelings after hooking up? Yes, they do.
How you decide to approach it is entirely up to you, but you need to also be considerate of his feelings. Don’t rush it, don’t be pushy, be a little bit patient, and be honest.